Wedding Day Roles & Responsibilities: Who Should Do What on the Big Day?
One week till your Singapore wedding? This day-by-day checklist covers everything you need to do—from vendor confirmations to self-care and last-minute packing—so you can stay calm, organised, and ready to walk down the aisle with confidence.
Because “I thought you were handling it” is not what you want to hear in your wedding dress.
Singapore weddings are a beautiful mix of tradition, modern chaos, and aunties who will take over if you don’t assign someone first. And while you've probably already sorted your vendor list and photo timeline, who’s actually handling the logistics on the ground?
From keeping your grandma hydrated to making sure your angbao box doesn’t disappear—here’s your ultimate guide to assigning wedding day duties like a pro (and avoiding a bridal breakdown).
💍 The Couple
Your role:
- Look stunning
- Say “I do” at the right time
- Enjoy your big day
That’s it. Everything else? Should be delegated. You’re not here to chase invoices or check if the florist showed up. You’re the main characters—act like it.
👑 Maid of Honour / Best Man
Your right hand(s). Their job:
- Coordinate the bridal party (wake-up calls, outfit checks, timekeeping)
- Hold the emergency kit (yes, the one with safety pins, tissues, and some anti-hangover gummies)
- Keep the bride/groom calm when the decor is slightly off (they’ll survive)
- Be the point person for vendors when the couple is unavailable
💡 Hot tip: Pack a few Revit gummies into the MOH’s clutch. Hangovers + wedding = tragedy.
💃 Bridesmaids & Groomsmen
They’re not just here to look cute in photos. Assign each one a mini task:
- In charge of snacks & hydration
- Chief lipstick checker / veil fixer
- Guest-wrangler for group photos
- Gatecrash game assistant (for Chinese weddings)
- One person on “Keep the Groom from Disappearing” duty
📋 Wedding Coordinator (Or Appointed Friend)
If you don’t have a professional planner, choose a responsible, assertive friend who isn’t afraid to chase vendors, troubleshoot problems, or shoo guests away from the dessert table early.
Their job:
- Follow the timeline
- Confirm vendor arrivals & setup
- Cue key moments (first dance, speeches, cake cutting)
- Handle last-minute changes without panicking
Basically, they’re the CEO of your wedding day. Treat them to bubble tea the next morning.
🧧 Angbao Box Guardian
Pick your most trustworthy cousin or friend. Their job:
- Watch the box like it’s gold
- Collect and store angbaos securely (yes, even in a hotel room safe)
- Help count later, if needed
Please, do not assign this to a “blur” friend. You know who they are.
📷 Photo Liaison
Someone needs to help the photographer identify VIPs, rally relatives, and tell Uncle Raymond to please stop blinking. Assign a bridesmaid or family member who knows both sides of the family well.
🧼 Clean-Up Crew / Decor Pack-Up Team
Whether you’re renting a venue or using your void deck, someone has to gather signage, leftover favours, and grandma’s extra chairs.
Ideal picks:
- Cousins you haven’t given jobs to yet
- The bridal party (with pizza promised)
🎤 Emcee
For many Singapore weddings, the couple has a friend or relative emcee instead of a professional. Make sure this person:
- Knows how to pronounce everyone's name
- Gets the timeline in advance
- Has a good sense of humour (but isn’t out here telling NS stories)
🛏 Overnight Bag Carrier
One person needs to bring the couple’s overnight bag to the hotel. Toothbrushes. Outfit change. Snacks. Revit gummies. Lip balm. Maybe extra angbaos. Trust no one else with this.
