Dos and Don’ts for Your Guo Da Li Ceremony in Singapore
The Guo Da Li (GDL) ceremony is culturally important in Chinese weddings, as it serves as a formal betrothal event. For the modern couple, it is easy to make accidental blunders if we don't fully understand the cultural dos and don’ts.
Here’s a guide to help you navigate the customs and traditions effectively.
DO: Choose an auspicious date
Consult with a Feng Shui master or refer to the Chinese lunar calendar to select an auspicious date for your Guo Da Li. The right timing can influence the harmony and prosperity of your marriage.
DO: Prepare the Traditional Gifts Appropriately
Each item in the Guo Da Li has its own symbolic meaning. Here's a full list of all Guo Da Li items to prepare. Common gifts include:
- Betrothal Gifts: Such as jewelry and money to symbolize prosperity and good fortune.
- Double Happiness Cakes: To spread joy among family and friends.
- Pig Trotters or Roast Pig: Representing fertility and the bride’s purity.
DO: Prepare Gifts in EVEN NUMBERS
Gifts must be presented in even numbers (in pairs) to symbolize the couple’s togetherness.
DON'T: Wait till the last minute to plan
Guo Da Li ceremony isn't as simple as a family gathering. There are lots of customs and traditions that you need to learn about and prepare for. Familiarise yourself with the process and follow this step-by-step guide on everything essential you need to do.
DON'T: Include inauspicious gifts
Certain items are considered taboo and should not be included in the gift exchange. These include:
- Clocks: Symbolize ‘counting down’ to the end of life.
- Umbrellas: Can imply dispersing or separation.
- Pears: The word for pears is similar to the word for departure in Chinese.
DON'T: Forget to ask both families' parents about the traditions and gifts they expect
Be mindful of the specific customs and preferences of both the bride’s and the groom’s families. Customs may vary based on your dialect group too.
Some families might have unique traditions or additional items that are important to them. Our best advice is to ask your parents to communicate their expectations clearly.
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